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Hold a Mother-Daughter Tea Party for Mother's Day
21 Tips to Make it a Great Mother's Day 

On May 7, 1914, President Wilson signed a resolution designating the second Sunday in May as "Mother's Day," the official day for honoring moms.

Looking for ways to make your Mom feel special? Plan a celebration that harks back to more leisurely and more elegant time. A mother-daughter tea party, in which the "ladies of the manor" can dress up, sip herbal teas, taste fancy desserts, and talk about anything and everything is just the thing.

Here are 21 tips for getting your celebration together.

Two to three weeks before the party
Slip an attractively wrapped herbal teabag in each invitation.

Ask both mothers and daughters to come in tea party style, complete with gloves and hats.

A few hours before the party
Create Ye Olde Tea Shoppe in your party room! Set the table with a sheer tablecloth, your best china and silver, and of course, a fancy teapot and cups. If you don't have enough, mix and match.

Play "vintage" or classical music.

Find gossamer that matches your decor and tie it in big, full bows around the back of each chair. Swag the same gossamer throughout the party room.

Light some white candles for atmosphere.

Make a centerpiece of coordinating flowers and balloons.

The party begins, welcome guests
Give the guests matching corsages to wear.

Play games and activities
Decorate Sugar Cookies — Roll and cut out sugar cookies, and bake according to package directions. Set out bowls of tinted frosting and tubes of colored icing, along with decorative candies, and have moms and daughters design theirs together.

Buy some blank teacups from a local Paint-Your-Own Ceramics store, and let the guests paint their own teacups.

Make picture frames from cardboard, decorate them with fancy foil wrapping paper, and use them for Polaroid snapshots of the mother-daughter pairs.

Do each other's makeup! Ask guests to bring their own makeup, then let the daughters make over the mothers, and vice versa!

Play "How Well Do You Know Your Mother/Daughter?" Write down questions for the pairs to answer about each other, such as "What time does your mother usually get up?" "What is your daughter's favorite TV show?" "What is your mother's favorite outfit?" "What does your daughter like to do after school?" Read the questions, have the pairs answer them on paper, then read the answers aloud to see which mother-daughter team knows one another best!

Have a "Girl Power Trivia" contest! Write down questions about famous real and fictional girls, including Pippi Longstocking, Cinderella, the Power Puff Girls, and so on. You might ask, How did Pippi Longstocking wear her hair?" "What did Cinderella wear to the Ball?" or "Which Power Puff Girl wears green?" etc. Read the questions, see who guesses the answer first, and award a prize to the team with the most correct answers.

Share refreshments and cake
Steep some tea or boil water for fruity herbal teas and serve in your fancy teapot.

Offer milk, cream, even clotted cream if you have it! Set out bowls of sugar, honey, and artificial sweeteners, too.

Make finger sandwiches cut into strips, spread with a variety of fillings. For fun, have the bakery tint a loaf of bread pink, and make the sandwiches on the pink bread!

Serve plates of raspberry scones, petit fours, sugar cookies, and other breads and sweets to go with the teas. And don't forget chocolate!

The party ends, say good-byes
Give each guest a teacup, bought new or from a second-hand shop. Fill them with herbal teas and pretty petits fours.

Present each pair of guests with matching scarves or pins.

Slip Polaroid snapshots of each pair into the decorated frames.

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Another article from iParty: (note some ideas may be similar to above)

Mother-Daughter High Tea

High Tea is a British custom that’s fast becoming popular in the United States. You’ll find quaint Tea Shoppes brewing in every major city and fancy Teapots in most American kitchens. A High Tea makes a wonderful venue for a Mother-Daughter party, where "Ladies of the Manor" can dress up, sip herbal teas, taste fancy desserts, and talk about anything and everything. Host a Mother-Daughter High Tea for your loved one and friends no matter what their ages, and share a relaxing but stimulating afternoon together!

Set the stage for the Tea by sending out Teabag Invitations!

    * Buy a box of herbal teabags. Remove the tag from each bag and cut out replacements from white paper. Write the party details inside the fold, and the words "Your Presence is Requested . . ." on the outside. Reattach to the teabags, slip into envelopes along with a sprinkling of aromatic tea, and mail to Mother-Daughter guests.
    * Dress up for Tea! Ask the women and girls to come in elegant tea party dresses, complete with gloves, hats, heels, and hose. When they arrive, present each one with a plastic Tiara and some costume jewelry or decorative brooch.

Create Ye Olde Tea Shoppe in your party room!

    * Transform the room into a flower show for your special guests. Choose a floral pattern, then drape pastel crepe paper streamers from the ceiling and tie bunches of pastel balloons to the backs of the chairs.
    * Set your fanciest table with a sheer white tablecloth. Don’t be afraid to have fun and mix your best China and silver with pretty paper goods. If you don’t have enough cups for everyone, borrow from neighbors or ask the guests to bring their own. Or buy teacups for everyone and send them home as party favors!
    * Play classical or swing music in the background, light some candles for atmosphere, and set a big bouquet of pink and white flowers as a centerpiece. Give the guests matching single-flower corsages to wear at the party, too!

Keep those fingers busy while you chat!

    * Decorate Sugar Cookies — Roll and cut out sugar cookies, and bake according to package directions. Set out bowls of tinted frosting and tubes of colored icing, along with decorative candies, and let the "ladies" create their own cookies.
    * Buy some teacups from the Paint-Your-Own Ceramics store, and let the guests paint their own teacups. Take the teacups back to the store to bake them, and hand them out as gifts.
    * Make picture frames from cardboard, decorate them with fancy foil wrapping paper, and use them for Polaroid snapshots of the Mother-Daughter pairs.

Play some games when the talk dies down!

    * After you’re done chatting, play "How Well Do You Know Your Mother/Daughter?" Write down questions for the pairs to answer about each other, such as "What time does your mother usually get up?" "What is your daughter’s favorite TV show?" "What is your mother’s favorite outfit?" "What does your daughter like to do after school?" Read the questions, have the pairs answer them on paper, then read the answers aloud to see which Mother-Daughter team knows one another best!

Serve High Tea — with lots of goodies!

    * Steep some tea or boil water for fruity herbal teas and serve in your fancy teapot.
    * Offer milk, cream, even clotted cream if you have it! Set out bowls of sugar, honey, and artificial sweeteners, too.
    * Make finger sandwiches cut into strips, spread with a variety of fillings. For fun, have the bakery tint a loaf of bread pink, and make the sandwiches on pink bread!
    * Serve plates of raspberry scones, petit fours, sugar cookies, and other breads and sweets to go with the teas. And don’t forget chocolate!

Send the ladies home with memories of a high time!

    * Give them teacups, decorated homemade or store-bought, along with some herbal teas.
    * Present each guest with matching scarves or pins.
    * Insert Polaroid snapshots of each pair into the decorated frames for a longtime memory of the event.

See entire archive of Ideas from iParty
http://www.iparty.com/italk/archive.asp

Book / Planning Guide to consider purchasing
for your personal "reference library"
Treasuring the Gift of Tea Time
by Julie L. Peterson
Excerpt quoted from website:
www.antiquiteaflair.com/
Treasuring the Gift of Tea Time, a resource book that helps make the planning
of birthday parties or any special occasion easy, elegant and unforgettable!
Sprinkled with treasures from the Victorian past, this tea party
planning guide is brimming to the rim with all the right ingredients
and easy to follow directions needed to stir-up the perfect tea party!
www.antiquiteaflair.com/
To order *free shipping within US*
www.antiquiteaflair.com/order.html

Especially noteworthy:
When Mother  Came to Tea
 By Margie M. Coburn
 From Chicken Soup for the Mother's Soul
Copyright 1999 Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen,
Jennifer Read Hawthorne, Marci Shimoff 

Related:
Chicken Soup for the Soul - Book  Ideas for Mothers & Daughters
*under $15 / nice gift  ideas/door prizes for Tea Celebrations*

Chicken Soup for the Mother's Soul:
101 Stories to Open the Hearts and Rekindle the Spirits of Mothers
Chicken Soup for the Mother & Daughter Soul:
Stories to Warm the Heart and Honor the Relationship

Chicken Soup for the Mother's Soul 2:
101 More Stories to Open the Hearts and Rekindle the Spirits of Mothers
Chicken Soup for the Soul
Cartoons for Moms

Visit a Woman Writes : Cookies & Tea
www.awomanswrites.com/cookies_and_tea.shtml

More books to consider:

Teatime Stories for Mothers:
Refreshment and Inspiration to Warm Your Heart

Visit too my "Book Resources" page
find information about starting a Book Club
For Inspiration - See these links for Mother / Daughter Book Clubs

• www.clothbookcovers.com/mother_daughter_book_club.htm
• www.pcl.lib.wa.us/MDBC_up.htm
• www.scholastic.com/schoolage/activities/3up/dabookclub.htm

www.readinggroupguides.com/advice/books/0060952423.asp

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Birthstones & Flowers
 As tradition would have it, every month has a birthstone and flowers that are associated with it. When you are looking for a gift or party theme, sometimes it's best to follow tradition!

January: Garnet & Carnation
February: Amethyst & Violet
March: Bloodstone, Aquamarine & Jonquil
April: Diamond & Sweet Pea
May: Emerald & Lily of the Valley
June: Pearl, Alexandrite & Rose
July: Ruby & Larkspur
August: Onyx, Peridot & Gladiolus
September: Sapphire & Aster
October: Opal, Tourmaline & Marigold
November: Topaz & Chrysanthemum
December: Turquoise, Zircon & Narcissus 

Find much more on the Party Talk help site
http://www.iparty.com/italk/partytalkhome.asp

A Woman Writes....
Cookies & Tea
http://www.awomanswrites.com/cookies_and_tea.shtml

Have a Daughter / Mom Tea 
Where the Moms honor the accomplishments of their daughters, or where the Moms, just enjoy the company of their daughters, and the Moms are the hostesses. It would be a nice thing to do before a child goes off to college, or when they come home over holiday breaks. Take some time to just enjoy a peaceful afternoon time together over tea and sandwiches and of course home made sweets.

Scones for Your Tea
From "An Afternoon Tea" Episode PAH-102 
http://www.diynet.com/DIY/article/0,2058,4883,00.html
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Mother Daughter Tea Bedford Inn
http://www.bedfordvillageinn.com/mother_daughter.html

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http://ci.fairborn.oh.us/eastactivities/mother_daughter_tea.htm